Let’s face it, human sexuality is a buffet, not a fixed menu. We’ve come a long way from the days of “Are you gay or straight?” as if those were the only two stations on the love train. In reality, there’s a wild, beautiful sexual orientation spectrum of ways people connect, desire, and identify. And while terms like bisexuality, pansexuality, and the asexual spectrum have finally elbowed their way into more mainstream conversations, there are still plenty of lesser known sexualities that deserve their moment in the consensual, sex positive spotlight.

So today we’re getting a little intimate with five sexual identity labels you might not have heard of, from autosexuality (which may or may not explain why your longest relationship is with your own reflection) to demisexuality (because maybe you do need a real connection before you drop your pants). Whether you're here out of curiosity, confusion, or because your TikTok algorithm got a little too real, we’ve got you covered.

Not quite. Masturbation is a universal human experience (unless you’re still pretending your browser history clears itself), but autosexuality goes deeper. It’s about self attraction, a deep and intimate connection with your own body and sexuality, not just a convenient five minute stress reliever.

Autosexual individuals may fantasize about themselves, dress for their own pleasure, or get turned on looking at photos of themselves. It’s self love on a whole new level.

And for those wondering, yes, you can still be in relationships while being autosexual. It’s not about rejecting others. It’s about owning your own hotness and finding that genuinely arousing. So if you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “Damn, I’d hit that” while looking in the mirror, well, welcome to the club.

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Yes. And so does brainpower. For demisexual and sapiosexual folks, good conversation, trust, and mental stimulation are the real foreplay. If you're more likely to orgasm after deep philosophical debate than after tequila shots and a wink, this might be your lane.

Demisexuality also highlights the connection between emotional connection and sexuality, showing how deeply intertwined our hearts and libidos can be.

Fraysexuality is basically the reverse of demisexuality. Fraysexual folks feel sexual attraction to strangers or new people but lose that desire once they get emotionally close. It’s not fear of intimacy, and it’s not commitment phobia. It’s simply how their desire operates.

Think of it as the honeymoon phase on steroids. New is hot, mysterious is sexy, but emotional closeness is like a cold shower. That doesn’t mean fraysexual individuals don’t want relationships. They might love cuddling, deep convos, and building a life with someone. They’re just not sexually into them anymore once that emotional closeness takes root.

Sound familiar? You’re not broken. You’re just fraysexual and probably really good at first dates.

Lithsexuality is attraction with a twist. You’re into someone, but only if they don’t return the vibe. That’s right. For lithsexual folks, desire fades or even turns off completely once it’s mutual. Picture that moment when your crush finally flirts back and your libido packs up and leaves the building.

It’s not about fear or rejection. It’s a real orientation. Lithsexuality exists on the broader sexual identity spectrum, where desire and attraction don’t always follow expected paths.

Lithsexual people often enjoy unreciprocated crushes, fantasy level admiration, or arousal that thrives on distance, not intimacy. And yes, some still want relationships, but the sexual side of things can feel disconnected or entirely internal.

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Aegosexuality, also called autochorissexuality if you want to win trivia night, is when someone enjoys sexual fantasies, thoughts, or content but doesn’t want to actually be part of the action.

You might get turned on watching porn, reading erotica, or imagining steamy scenarios. But the idea of actual sex? Not interested. That disconnect between fantasy and participation is the core of aegosexuality.

It’s a valid part of the asexual spectrum, a place on the sexual identity spectrum where sexual interest is more about mental stimulation than physical connection.

You can enjoy the mental foreplay, the visual content, and even the role play in your head without needing it to happen in real life. It’s not confusion. It’s just how some people experience desire.

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You don’t owe anyone a neat, easy answer to “what are you into?” The truth is, desire is weird. And wonderful. And personal. And for some people, it doesn’t follow the scripts we’re used to seeing in sex ed class.

Whether you light up from eye contact with a stranger, emotional bonding over brunch, or a mirror selfie that deserves its own OnlyFans, there’s a name for your flavor of desire. And knowing it? That’s powerful.

At Popstar, we’re here for all the ways people connect. Whether you’re solo, partnered, fantasy forward, or connection driven, we’ve got science backed tools to support you along every curve of the journey. Check out our Volume + Taste Supplement, Delay Spray, and Personal Lubricants to feel good in your body, no matter how you use it.

And remember, whoever you are and however you get turned on, if it’s consensual, safe, and feels good to you, it belongs.