Better Intimacy Month: Beyond the Bedroom

If you haven’t heard of Better Intimacy Month, don’t worry—you’re not behind on a Hallmark holiday. It’s a growing movement that encourages people to rethink how they build closeness in relationships, especially in long-term partnerships or during busy seasons where sex might take a backseat.

And yes, intimacy includes sex. But it also includes:

• Honest conversations

• Physical affection that isn’t goal-oriented

• Acts of service

• Emotional check-ins

• Sharing dreams, fears, and weird inside jokes

Whether you’re partnered, solo, or somewhere in between, Better Intimacy Month is your cue to check in with your connection habits—starting with yourself.

Let’s get something out of the way: intimacy without sex is still intimacy. If you’ve ever felt closer to someone after a deep 2 a.m. conversation or a random weekday cuddle on the couch, you already get it.

Better intimacy isn’t about more sex. It’s about deeper connection. And ironically, investing in non-sexual intimacy often makes sexual intimacy better, because it builds:

• Trust

• Emotional safety

• Playfulness

• Openness to trying new things

So yes, Better Intimacy Month can improve your bedroom game—but it starts way before the pants come off.

Here’s how intimacy actually plays out in the wild (aka your regular, often chaotic life):

1. Flirting in the Everyday

You don’t have to save the flirty texts for foreplay. Send a compliment in the middle of the workday. Drop a “thinking of you” post-it in their bag. Wink across the kitchen. It’s low effort, high reward, and it keeps the romantic spark alive in normal moments.

2. Being Weird Together

Nothing says “I trust you” like letting your freak flag fly. Inside jokes, shared playlists, stupid TikToks you send each other in bed—this is intimacy. It might not make you moan, but it definitely makes you feel seen.

3. Having the Hard Talks

Look, nothing kills intimacy faster than avoiding real conversations. Better intimacy means asking uncomfortable questions, admitting when you’re off, and actually listening when your partner does the same.

4. Prioritizing Aftercare

We talk about aftercare in kink scenes, but it matters in vanilla intimacy too. After a tough day. After sex. After an argument. Aftercare means being present when the intensity fades.

5. Trying Something New (That’s Not a Sex Position)

Want to feel more connected? Try a new class together. Cook something weird. Build a Lego set while half-drunk. Exploring novelty together is one of the fastest ways to deepen intimacy.

Yes, Better Intimacy Month is about more than sex. But we’re not skipping the fun part.

Better sex = better intimacy, especially when you take the pressure off performance and focus on connection, sensation, and yes, laughing when something weird happens.

Here’s what helps:

• Popstar Delay Spray: Because confidence is sexy, and being able to last longer without killing sensation makes intimacy more relaxed and connected.

• Popstar Personal Lubricants: Good lube = less stress, better friction, and a smoother ride whether you’re going slow and sensual or pushing boundaries.

• Popstar Volume + Taste Supplement: For people who want to enhance orgasm intensity and feel more confident about what’s coming out at the end. Because taste matters. Ask your partner.

If you're thinking, “This all sounds good but I’m not writing love letters or planning a couple’s retreat,” don’t worry. Better Intimacy Month isn’t about grand gestures. It’s about the little stuff done consistently.

Here’s how to celebrate without getting weird about it:

• Schedule a tech-free hangout once a week

• Ask your partner a question you’ve never asked before

• Revisit your favorite shared memory

• Tell them what you appreciate about them—out loud

• Have sex, or don’t—but stay physically affectionate

Remember: connection isn’t a performance. It’s a practice.

Great question. Better Intimacy Month is still for you.

Solo intimacy is real. It’s how you treat yourself. How you talk to your body. How you honor your wants and needs even when there’s no one else in the room.

Self-pleasure, mindful masturbation, mirror talk, boundary setting—all of it counts. This month is about reconnecting with what feels good to you, and bringing that energy into future connections, if and when you want to.

Better intimacy isn’t about achieving couple goals or buying matching robes. It’s about being present. Being curious. Being brave enough to ask for what you want, and generous enough to listen when someone else does the same.

Better Intimacy Month is your chance to slow down and reconnect—whether that means more quality time, more eye contact, or finally trying that position you both keep pretending not to be nervous about.

Whatever intimacy looks like for you, Popstar’s here to help make it a little easier, a lot more fun, and way less awkward.