While sex isn’t everything, having a healthy sex life plays a crucial role in the success of a healthy relationship. That being said, it isn’t always easy to be on the same “sexual clock.” Perhaps your partner already beat the bishop that morning. Maybe you had a stressful day at work, and a glass of pinot and your pillow are all you have energy for. Watching porn together can stoke your sexual flames and get you and your partner on the same sexual page, putting you both in the mood to knock some boots!

After a while, sex can become part of your mundane routine, like flossing or walking your dog. If you are in a long-term relationship, your sexual habits can become stale. “Making love” can become “making like.” If you’re tired of having the same thirteen minutes of Missionary to the tune of a Schitt’s Creek rerun you’ve seen seven times in the background, porn may be the key.

Porn can help you explore kinks with your partner . You can acknowledge your desires and recognize your limitations. You can quickly identify your turn-ons and turn-offs as you watch them play out in front of you. If you and your partner are visual learners, porn is the perfect way to convey your fantasies and get out of your usual romp rut. Sharing sexual fantasies becomes a whole lot easier when you have a visual aid.

Sharing sexual fantasies with your partner can be daunting. Will they think it’s weird? Will they laugh? Will they, God forbid, kink shame?! Side note: there should be no kink-shaming; it’s not the 1950s. Sexual exploration in relationships through porn can normalize your potentially “taboo” desires. Partner porn can also inspire you to have deeper conversations regarding intimacy, ultimately leading to enhancing sexual communication and a more in-tune sexual relationship.

Before having the conversation with your partner, you must ask yourself a few questions. Why do I want to watch porn with my partner? What am I hoping will come out of this experience? Do I think it will help us grow closer? Will I learn more about my partner’s needs? Do I think it will just be a fun thing to do? Answering these questions will help you clearly communicate with your partner.

It is essential to have a casual conversation with your partner on the topic. We wouldn’t recommend having “Two Girls, One Cup” pulled up on airplay when your partner gets back from brushing their teeth. A surprise may not be the best tactic. Surprises may be great for a milestone birthday, but not couples watching porn . It also may be an uncomfortable situation to bring up. Your partner may take you wanting to spice up your sex life personally. We don’t want them to feel like they don’t satisfy you. Assure them that it is only to strengthen your sexual bond above all else. We recommend that you do not have this conversation while you are already having sex. Like any sexual situation, it is important to be gentle at first. The last thing you want to do is go in with no lube!

While we can feel our sexiest in the bedroom, it is also when we can feel the most vulnerable. It is important to create a safe space for both you and your partner. Listen to their needs and respect their space and setting boundaries in sexual activities . Ask them the kind of porn they usually watch and what kind they envision themselves watching with you. It is crucial to know where their boundaries are, and the hard no’s. Where do they sexually draw the line? What is pleasurable and exciting to you may not be for others.

Knowing the perfect place to start is key to creating a safe space. It may be better to air on the more conservative side with your video selection. Make sure to find some kinky common ground. This will be unique to every couple based on your personality and style. It is also important to take into consideration how you and your partner feel about the production choices behind the porn you watch. We recommend looking into ethical porn, which is legally made and respects the parties involved and working conditions.

Perhaps you want to show your partner your favorite amateur content creators just like you would show them your favorite series you recently binged. After all, sex work is work, and why not use this experience to support your favorite creators?

Start with something fun and adventurous, but don’t go balls to the wall right away (pun intended). Let’s not run before we walk.

Have fun and be patient with yourselves. It may not be the perfect fit the first time around but keep it up (literally). Mutual masturbation while watching porn together can also be a great way to connect and explore what feels good in a low-pressure setting.

Watching porn with your partner will give your boudoir a boost and increase intimacy. Keep the lines of communication open, take it slow and enjoy! Best of luck and happy humping!