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How to Make Your Partner Have an Orgasm

Make Your Partner Say "Oh!"

Hey there fellow fornicators! If this headline piqued your interest, chances are you're having a little trouble helping your partner reach orgasm. Join the club. We're here to share tips and tricks to help you make your partner orgasm so you both enjoy the ultimate pleasure together.

Communication is Key

While this may seem like a no-brainer, the brain has everything to do with it! It's surprising how many couples don't discuss what they like and don't like. Take a lot of time to have an honest conversation about what you like and don't like during sex. What turns you on or not so much. Encourage your partner to tell you what they like, and let them know you're willing to experiment to find out what works best for everyone.

Foreplay

Many women require a lot of stimulation before they can reach orgasm, so don't rush things! Spend some extra time on kissing, touching, and other forms of non-penetrative stimulation to build up arousal. Get INTO it. Explore your partner's body, show them you appreciate it, and try different techniques to see what gets them going.

Position. Position. Position.

The position you choose can make a huge difference when it comes to getting it on. Experiment with different positions. Some women prefer positions that allow for clitoral stimulation, like missionary with a pillow under their hips or doggy style. Others may prefer positions allowing deeper penetration, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl. Yeehaw! Try out a bunch of positions until you find what works. Plus, it's just really fun to mix it up.

Sex is More Than Sex

One thing to remember is that not all women can orgasm from penetrative sex alone. This is where oral sex can be a game-changer. If your partner digs it, try incorporating it. Use your tongue, lips, and fingers to stimulate their clitoris and other erogenous zones. Don't be afraid to ask for feedback and adjust your technique accordingly.

Lube it Up

Consider lubrication! More specifically, a lack of lubrication can make sex uncomfortable or even painful for your partner. Use plenty to help things go smoothly, especially if your partner is having trouble getting wet.

Sex is Not an Orgasm

Lastly, remember that sex is not just about orgasm. It's essential to focus on the journey, not just the destination. Enjoy the closeness and intimacy that comes with being with your partner. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself or your partner during sex. The more relaxed and comfortable you both feel, the more likely the orgasm will come naturally.


There is no silver bullet (and we don't mean the vibrator)—communication, exploration, and experimentation. Be patient, be attentive, and most importantly, have fun!

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez is a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine and specializes in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. He completed his medical education at Columbia University and his urological residency at the Mount Sinai Medical Center. Throughout his career, Dr. Gonzalez has focused on advocating for sexual health and providing improved healthcare to the LGBTQ+ community.