1. Position Overview
| Subject | Details |
|---|---|
| Alternate Names / Aliases | Side Spoon with Rear Alignment, Shadow Embrace |
| Position Type (penetrative, oral, manual, non-penetrative) | Penetrative (can also support manual or external stimulation) |
| Orientation (face-to-face, rear-entry, side-by-side, standing) | Side-by-side, rear-entry |
| Typical Roles (use neutral labels like Partner A / Partner B) | Partner A behind Partner B, both lying on their sides |
| Difficulty / Effort | Low – requires minimal core or limb strain |
| Common Strain Areas | Neck, lower back, upper thigh (if unsupported) |
| Best For | Intimacy, slow rhythm, gentle motion control |
| Props Helpful | Pillow, wedge cushion, lubricant |
| Safer-Sex Notes | Use appropriate barriers (condom, internal condom) and water- or silicone-based lubricant to reduce friction |
2. Introduction
The Eclipse position describes a variation of the side-lying spoon posture where both partners rest parallel, with Partner A behind Partner B. It allows close physical contact while offering joint support and relaxation. Well-suited for comfort-focused or slower-paced intimacy, it balances closeness with stable alignment.
3. About the Position
In sexual health education, the Eclipse position is recognized for minimizing pressure on wrists, knees, and hips. By keeping both individuals horizontally aligned, it reduces joint strain and enhances long-duration comfort. This makes it a supportive option for pregnancy, chronic pain, and fatigue management.
The position’s rear-entry orientation supports a range of body shapes and gender pairings, facilitating different forms of stimulation or penetration with minimal lifting. It offers a shared body temperature and synchronized breathing, contributing to psychological intimacy.
4. How to Do It (Step-by-Step)
- Lie Side-by-Side: Partner B lies comfortably on one side, knees slightly bent. Partner A aligns behind in the same direction, chest to back.
- Adjust Hips and Support: Align hips so that pelvic contact feels natural and relaxed; use a small pillow or cushion under Partner B’s upper thigh or abdomen to modify angle.
- Position for Balance: Partner A can curve their lower arm under their pillow or around Partner B’s waist, ensuring both necks remain neutral.
- Movement and Control: Gentle, slow motion is emphasized; rhythmic rocking or minimal thrusting helps sustain balance.
- Safe Transition Out: When finishing, Partner A should slowly withdraw or pause before moving apart to avoid joint strain.
5. Anatomy & Mechanics
Because both individuals remain side-lying, spinal alignment plays a central role. The top leg of Partner B can be slightly elevated on a pillow for comfort and angle adjustment. The position’s mechanical advantage lies in reduced gravity resistance; weight is supported by the mattress, not by limbs.
Common strain points include the underside shoulder and neck. A supportive surface prevents compression neuropathy. Pelvic alignment shifts influence angle and depth — raising the thigh or using a wedge modifies hip tilt, which can enhance or ease penetration depending on anatomy.
6. Variations & Transitions
- Open Eclipse: Partner B rolls partially forward, giving Partner A more access to the front of their torso.
- Closed Eclipse: Classic spoon orientation with full torso contact for warmth and steady pacing.
- Leg Lift Variation: Partner B lifts or props one leg on a pillow, increasing range of motion.
- Transition Ideas: Moves easily to face-to-face side-lying or seated positions without standing up.
7. Comfort, Safety & Risk Management
Warm-up with gentle stretching for hips and shoulders. Discontinue or shift if pain arises in the lower back or hip joint. Use ample lubrication, as friction is reduced by lower gravity pressure but moisture remains vital for comfort.
Condoms and internal condoms can both be used effectively; check that the barrier stays in place during side motion. For pregnancy or low back pain, clinicians recommend neutral spine alignment and pillow support between knees. Individuals recovering from pelvic conditions should talk with their healthcare provider before engaging.
8. Accessibility & Inclusivity
This side-lying format supports a range of ability levels, including those with limited mobility or chronic fatigue. Larger-bodied individuals may appreciate reduced downward pressure. Trans and non-binary participants using prosthetics or harnesses can adjust strap placement with cushions for stabilization. Communication about comfort and dysphoria awareness is vital — emphasizing mutual affirmation over performance.
9. Props, Surfaces & Setup
| Item / Prop | How It Helps | Tips for Use |
|---|---|---|
| Pillow / Wedge | Adjusts pelvis or knee height for sustained alignment | Place under Partner B’s top leg or abdomen |
| Chair / Edge | Not typically required; could aid transition if mobility limited | Use for steady transfer between positions |
| Lubricant | Reduces friction and enhances glide | Choose body-safe, compatible with condom/barrier type |
| Barrier (condom, internal condom, dental dam) | Provides protection from STI transmission | Check proper placement before position change |
10. FAQs
- Is the Eclipse position good for beginners? Yes, it requires minimal coordination and allows rest breaks without losing connection.
- Can this position work during pregnancy? Often yes. Many healthcare sources cite side-lying postures as safer and more comfortable in later trimesters.
- What if my arm goes numb? Place a small pillow under the underside shoulder or switch sides periodically.
- How can I increase movement range? Lift or support Partner B’s top leg to improve hip mobility.
- Is it suitable for anal or vaginal penetration? Yes, both can be accommodated with slight adjustments to hip angle and lubricant use.
- How do I make it more active? Partner B can press legs or glutes backward gently, creating shared rhythm.
- Can this be used for manual stimulation only? Absolutely; it allows full external contact while keeping both relaxed.
- What surfaces work best? A firm mattress or soft mat provides best spinal support.
- Does this reduce intimacy since partners face the same direction? Many find it increases comfort and closeness by reducing effort and maintaining contact.
- Any risks for those with hip replacements or arthritis? Generally low; avoid deep flexion or twisting, and consult a clinician as needed.
- What if one partner is much taller? Adjust by aligning pelvis first, then add pillows where gaps appear.
- How can we keep condoms from slipping? Use adequate lubricant outside only, and check fit before starting.
- Does it allow clitoral or external stimulation? Yes; either partner can reach around comfortably.
- Can sex toys be integrated? Yes, small vibrators or sleeves work well due to proximity of partners.
- Any specific lubricant type recommended? Water or silicone-based, chosen by sensitivity and barrier compatibility.
- Is this safe for postpartum bodies? Typically safer than weight-bearing postures; consult healthcare provider for timing.
- What’s the difference between Eclipse and standard spooning? Eclipse emphasizes adjustable spacing and pelvic angling for comfort and access.
- Does this help reduce performance anxiety? It can; slower tempo and closeness encourage relaxation.
11. Tips, Common Mistakes & Troubleshooting
Tips:
- Discuss comfort levels before trying new variations.
- Use multiple pillows to maintain neck and spine alignment.
- Breathe together to maintain rhythm and reduce tension.
Common Mistakes:
- Ignoring shoulder support — causes neck pain.
- Using too soft a mattress — misaligns hips.
- Forgetting lubricant — increases friction and discomfort.
Troubleshooting:
- Adjust leg positioning if penetration angle feels awkward.
- Switch sides if one partner’s shoulder fatigues.
- Take pauses to re-moisturize or stretch if needed.
Consistent communication remains the key to comfort and consent. Sex therapist–endorsed guidance emphasizes checking in verbally, reading body cues, and stopping if discomfort or numbness occurs.
12. Conclusion
The Eclipse position blends intimacy, relaxation, and accessibility. Because it minimizes pressure on major joints, it’s ideal for prolonged, gentle sessions or when seeking emotional closeness without physical strain. With simple support tools like pillows and lubrication, nearly all body types can enjoy it safely. For couples exploring adaptable, low-effort positions that encourage communication and steady contact, the Eclipse stands out as an enduring choice backed by sound anatomical logic and inclusive applicability.
