1. Position Overview

2. Introduction

Face-sitting is a form of oral intimacy in which one partner positions themselves above the other's face—typically seated, kneeling, or hovering—while the lower partner gives oral stimulation. It is often valued for its feelings of control, visual connection, and multisensory closeness. When practiced consensually and with attention to breathing and comfort, it can be safe and empowering for both partners.

3. About the Position

Face-sitting involves Partner A positioning their pelvis above Partner B’s face so Partner B can provide oral contact to the genitals or other areas. The position aligns the partners vertically, creating opportunities for experimentation with height, angle, and weight distribution. For safety, the receiving partner should be able to adjust their weight readily, and the giving partner must have sufficient control to signal when they need a break.

Variations accommodate diverse bodies, genders, and setups—any configuration emphasizing comfort, choice, and airway safety can qualify. The position can also be modified using chairs or edges of furniture for support. It suits many body types due to its relatively flexible alignment.

4. How to Do It (Step-by-Step)

1. Preparation: Agree on signals for stopping or pausing. Decide on cushions or furniture to use. Wash hands and external genitals or use barriers for safety.
2. Initial alignment: Partner B lies on their back, optionally supported by pillows under the neck and shoulders for comfort. Partner A positions themselves above, either hovering on knees or seated gently, adjusting their posture to avoid excessive weight on Partner B’s chest or face.
3. Balance and control: Partner A can use their thighs or reach for support surfaces to steady themselves. Adjust until both are comfortable with visibility, breathing, and access.
4. Adjust for comfort: Small movements of hips or shifting toward a seated or squatting stance can modify pressure and angle. Continuous communication helps maintain mutual comfort.
5. Ending safely: When finished, Partner A should shift their weight to one leg first or use a stable object to rise without sudden movement, ensuring Partner B’s neck is supported.

5. Anatomy & Mechanics

Face-sitting primarily engages the thighs, hips, and core for Partner A and the neck and jaw muscles for Partner B. The higher partner controls closeness and movement; thus, thigh engagement and balance are important. Weight distribution determines pressure on the lower partner’s face, chest, or shoulders.

Neck alignment for Partner B is crucial—avoid deep neck flexion to reduce strain. Supporting the upper back and neck with pillows at slight elevation helps. For Partner A, alternating between hovering, kneeling, or partial seating prevents fatigue and improves blood flow.

Comfort varies depending on pelvic angle and flexibility. Some may experience hip tightness; using cushions or straddling on a chair can help maintain comfortable alignment.

6. Variations & Transitions

• Kneeling Hover: Partner A kneels over Partner B without resting weight, ideal for dynamic movement.
• Seated (supported) Version: Partner A sits lightly on a soft surface over Partner B’s face using a pillow or chair edge for support, reducing leg fatigue.
• Chair Modification: Partner B is seated or reclined while Partner A positions themselves facing or facing away. Useful for those with back or mobility limitations.
• Low-Strain Transition: Transition from face-sitting to side-lying oral or manual play to reduce neck or thigh fatigue.

All variations should allow unobstructed breathing and a clear stop signal—such as tapping the leg or a prearranged word.

7. Comfort, Safety & Risk Management

Key safety measures include: not applying full weight directly to the lower partner’s chest or face, maintaining open communication, and ensuring an easy way to indicate discomfort.

Preparation: Avoid heavy meals and ensure hydration for physical endurance. Perform position changes slowly to avoid musculoskeletal strain.

Breath Safety: The giving partner should always have access to airflow. Hovering versions or use of a chair can increase safety.

Infection Prevention: Oral barriers like dental dams reduce STI transmission from oral-genital contact. Latex or polyurethane dams are effective for most external tissues.

Pain Indicators: Neck soreness, jaw locking, or leg cramping signal the need to pause. Redness or discomfort after the activity should resolve within hours—persistent pain warrants medical evaluation.

Special Conditions: During pregnancy or recovery from childbirth, choose supported versions with reduced pressure. Those with knee or joint concerns should adjust height using pillows rather than squatting.

8. Accessibility & Inclusivity

This position can be modified for many situations:

• Mobility considerations: For limited hip or leg strength, using a firm chair or bed edge helps maintain posture. Partner B’s head can rest on a pillow wedge for better alignment.
• Chronic pain conditions: Supported seating relieves joint load. Communication about pressure level and timing is essential.
• Body size and proportions: Taller or heavier partners can avoid airway restriction by using a spaced hover or open-leg stance. Cushions placed under Partner B’s shoulders can enhance ergonomics.
• Gender affirming considerations: Trans and non-binary partners should adapt anatomy names and barriers to suit personal needs. External prosthetics or harnesses should not obstruct airflow or neck support.

Inclusivity depends on maintaining language of mutual respect and adapting to physical and psychological comfort zones.

9. Props, Surfaces & Setup

10. FAQs

1. Is face-sitting safe? Yes, with proper communication and airway safety. Avoid full weight on the face.
2. How do we use a dental dam properly? Place it over the vulva or anus before contact and hold it taut to avoid slipping.
3. Which muscles might tire first? Partner A’s thighs and Partner B’s neck; take breaks often.
4. Can this cause injury? Unlikely when practiced safely, though neck or thigh strain is possible.
5. How long should sessions last? Comfort varies—rotate positions every few minutes.
6. How can we maintain airflow? Hovering instead of sitting fully or keeping positional space.
7. Is it hygienic? Yes, with normal washing and optional use of barriers.
8. What about body size differences? Pillows or chairs accommodate different builds easily.
9. Does it work for all genders? Yes, it is anatomy-neutral with small adjustments.
10. What kind of lube is safest? Body-safe water-based or silicone-based lubricants compatible with barriers.
11. What consent cues should be set? Establish words or gestures to pause immediately.
12. Can pregnant individuals try it? Yes, with provider approval and supported posture.
13. Can this spread infections? Oral STIs can spread; use barriers and routine testing.
14. What should I do if I feel dizzy or numb? Stop immediately, stand slowly, and rest.
15. Is it okay to talk during it? Yes—communication ensures safety and comfort.
16. How to reduce thigh fatigue? Use supported seating or alternate leg positions.
17. Can glasses or facial hair interfere? Adjust angles or remove obstacles beforehand.
18. How to clean afterward? Wash external skin and discard single-use barriers.
19. Should we use protection every time? Yes, for new partners or unknown STI status.
20. Can this be done on the floor or bed? Both, but firm surfaces provide better stability.

11. Tips, Common Mistakes & Troubleshooting

Tips:

• Use soft surfaces that support both partners’ spines and joints.
• Maintain open communication before and during activity.
• Alternate between hovering and resting to prevent fatigue.
• Keep water or towel nearby for aftercare.

Common Mistakes:

• Ignoring breathing concerns—ensure airway clearance.
• Setting up on unstable furniture—use wide, firm surfaces.
• Poor alignment—pillow under shoulders aligns airways safely.
• Forgetting signals—decide on a nonverbal cue early.

Troubleshooting:

• Neck pain: Adjust pillow angle; do neck stretches afterward.
• Leg cramps: Flex and extend legs every few minutes.
• Fatigue: Switch to side-by-side positions.
• Communication lapse: Revisit consent conversations and establish comfort boundaries regularly.

Educator insight (Planned Parenthood-affiliated clinicians): clear consent and mutual awareness of breathing cues remain foundational for safe exploration.

12. Conclusion

Face-sitting is a consensual oral position emphasizing control and closeness. When practiced with conversational communication, barrier protection, and proper support, it can be both safe and empowering. Its adaptability suits a broad range of bodies and abilities. As with any sexual activity, prioritizing consent, safety, and comfort ensures a positive and respectful experience for all participants.