1. Position Overview
| Subject | Details |
|---|---|
| Alternate Names / Aliases | Tribadism, Tribbing |
| Position Type (penetrative, oral, manual, non-penetrative) | Non-penetrative genital-genital contact |
| Orientation (face-to-face, rear-entry, side-by-side, standing) | Typically side-by-side or face-to-face |
| Typical Roles (use neutral labels like Partner A / Partner B) | Partner A and Partner B engage through genital-to-genital alignment |
| Difficulty / Effort | Medium; maintaining balance and alignment requires coordination |
| Common Strain Areas | Inner thighs, hips, and lower back if unsupported |
| Best For | Clitoral contact, intimacy, mutual rhythm control |
| Props Helpful | Pillows, wedge cushion, lubricant |
| Safer-Sex Notes | External/contact barriers (e.g., latex or polyurethane sheets, dental dams) and water-based lubricants reduce friction and infection risk |
2. Introduction
Scissoring — also known as tribadism — is a non-penetrative sexual position where two vulva-bearing partners align and move their genitals together, typically in a side-by-side or intersecting leg configuration. It emphasizes mutual stimulation, bodily closeness, and shared motion over penetration.
Although widely referenced in popular culture, professional sex educators and clinicians highlight that scissoring can take many ergonomic forms. Comfort and connection depend more on communication and body awareness than achieving any specific visual configuration.
3. About the Position
In educational contexts, scissoring refers to any configuration in which two vulva-bearing partners bring their pelvic regions into contact for mutual stimulation. One or both may flex a leg over or around the other’s for alignment.
Anatomically, it allows external genital structures (such as the clitoral glans and labia) to meet through pressure and movement. Modifications accommodate varying thigh flexibility, pelvic rotation, and body size. For many, supportive surfaces and gentle pacing reduce muscle strain.
This position can be adapted across body diversity and genders; individuals using external prosthetics or soft packers may incorporate them safely with attention to pressure and temperature comfort.
4. How to Do It (Step-by-Step)
- Preparation: Choose a surface with some give (e.g., firm mattress or yoga mat). Apply a small amount of water-based lubricant to external genitals or the contact area.
- Positioning: Both partners lie or recline on their sides facing one another. One partner (Partner A) may lift or bend a leg to intersect with Partner B’s thigh or hip.
- Alignment: Adjust pelvises so external genital areas make comfortable contact rather than strain. Small shifts in hip rotation or leg angle can help.
- Movement: Gentle rocking or rolling motion maintains rhythm; communication about pressure and speed enhances comfort.
- Exit: Ease legs back to neutral, supporting hips as needed. Hydrate and check in about any soreness or discomfort.
5. Anatomy & Mechanics
The effectiveness of the position depends on pelvic angle and leg flexibility. Tilting the pelvis slightly backward or forward changes where contact occurs. Maintaining relaxed inner thighs reduces muscle fatigue.
The clitoral complex consists of external (glans) and internal (crura and bulbs) components; external-to-external contact can stimulate multiple nerve endings. Excessive tension or forced alignment can compress nerves or strain the lower back. Use pillows or change elevation for neutrality.
Practitioners with hip or lumbar sensitivity may prefer semi-reclined or supported side positions, using cushions to distribute weight evenly.
6. Variations & Transitions
- Parallel Side Scissor: Both partners remain mostly parallel. Easier on hips, better for sustained positions.
- Crossed-Leg Scissor: One partner’s leg crosses over or under for closer pelvic engagement; requires more flexibility.
- Seated Scissor: Partners sit facing each other, one leg inside and one outside; good for eye contact and less thigh strain.
- Supported Scissor: Using pillows under the hips reduces torque and improves stability.
- Transition Ideas: Smoothly shift from side-by-side to seated or spooning styles by rolling together and adjusting leg placement.
7. Comfort, Safety & Risk Management
Non-penetrative genital contact can still transmit infections (e.g., HSV, HPV, chlamydia). Barriers such as dental dams or cut-open condoms reduce this risk.
Pain Indicators: Sharp hip or low-back pain indicates misalignment; stop and adjust. Tingling or numbness suggests pressure on nerves.
Preparation: Gentle stretching of inner thighs and abductors prior to sexual activity may help prevent cramps.
Pregnancy and Postpartum: Side-lying contact is generally safe without abdominal compression, but always confirm with a healthcare provider.
Lubrication: Even in external contact, friction can irritate mucosal tissue; lubrication protects skin integrity.
8. Accessibility & Inclusivity
- Mobility Adaptations: For limited leg flexibility, partners can remain semi-reclined with knees bent or employ assistive wedges.
- Chronic Pain: Cushion joints and use slower motion patterns to avoid strain. Focus on comfort rather than symmetry.
- Body Size Considerations: Adjust distance and leg arrangement; alternating between overlapped and offset hips accommodates different torso lengths.
- Gender Diversity: Trans and non-binary individuals may use this position in ways inclusive of varying anatomy; prosthetics, binders, or tucking garments should not restrict circulation or cause overheating.
9. Props, Surfaces & Setup
| Item / Prop | How It Helps | Tips for Use |
|---|---|---|
| Pillow / Wedge | Elevates hips and supports alignment | Choose firm foam to maintain stability |
| Blanket or Mat | Prevents slipping on smoother surfaces | Secure edges to avoid shifting |
| Lubricant | Decreases friction and reduces tissue irritation | Apply to both areas before contact |
| Barrier (condom sheath, dental dam) | Provides protection from fluid contact and infections | Use water-based lube to keep barrier in place |
10. FAQs
- Is scissoring only for women? No; any two partners with compatible anatomy can use genital-to-genital contact as part of their sexual expression.
- Is it medically safe? When practiced with barriers and lubrication, it is generally low-risk. Skin health and communication are key.
- Does it always work for every body? Flexibility and anatomy differ; not everyone finds it comfortable or stimulating, and that’s normal.
- Can infections be transmitted? Yes, through skin or fluid contact. Use barriers and maintain regular STI screening.
- What surfaces are best? Firm but cushioned beds, mats, or folded blankets provide support and traction.
- How do you improve comfort? Use props and maintain relaxed hip muscles. Proper breathing reduces tension.
- Is orgasm guaranteed? No. Pleasure varies individually and isn’t the only measure of satisfaction.
- What if one partner can’t keep legs lifted? Add pillows or shift to a reclined or seated variation.
- Can it be integrated into foreplay? Yes; gentle external contact can serve as foreplay or as a standalone act.
- How can trans women or AFAB non-binary people adapt scissoring? Adjust positioning to align comfortably with one’s anatomy or use prosthetics if desired.
- What lubricants are best? Use body-safe water-based or silicone-based lubes depending on sensitivity and barrier type.
- Is it quiet or noisy? Movement may create friction or slip sounds; that’s normal and not problematic.
- What should be done if irritation occurs? Stop and rinse with warm water; avoid further friction until skin heals.
- Can condoms replace dental dams? Yes, cut open a condom lengthwise to create a flat sheath.
- Should people stretch beforehand? Gentle lower-body mobility exercises can help prevent cramps.
- Is it normal to laugh? Absolutely — levity supports comfort and communication.
- How to clean up after? Wash external genitals with warm water; air or pat dry.
- Can this be done clothed? Yes, for safer exploration; thin clothing layers still allow external contact.
11. Tips, Common Mistakes & Troubleshooting
Tips:
- Communicate continuously. Ask about comfort and adjust right away.
- Maintain gentle pressure; more force rarely adds pleasure and can cause fatigue.
- Apply ample lubricant and reapply during pauses.
- Change leg angles often to reduce static pressure.
Common Mistakes:
- Forcing inflexible leg positions.
- Neglecting lubrication.
- Attempting to imitate exact visual depictions rather than finding mutual comfort.
- Forgetting to support lower backs.
Troubleshooting:
- If hips feel sore, try lying more parallel or adding a pillow.
- If thigh muscles burn, bend knees slightly or alternate movement rhythm.
- If loss of contact occurs, move closer rather than stretching legs wider.
Quotes from experts such as Planned Parenthood educators emphasize that “there is no ‘correct’ form — only what feels comfortable and consensual.”
12. Conclusion
Scissoring is valued for its symbolism of mutual, face-to-face intimacy and genital touch without penetration. Proper alignment, communication, and use of barriers and lubrication are essential to safety and comfort. It suits partners seeking shared closeness, body awareness, and cooperative movement. Its adaptability makes it a gentle, inclusive option across many bodies and identities.
