A Guide to Your Goodie Drawer: 5 Must Have Sex Toys

Written by: Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

You can tell a lot about a person by looking in their nightstand drawer. For some, you might find a sleep mask, a B-list celebrity’s melatonin gummy line, earplugs, perhaps condoms. For others, you may have stumbled upon their goodie drawer: a place to store sex toys and other passionate playthings. Having a stocked and ready-to-go goodie drawer is essential for company, but it is also important for when you are flying solo. Despite what you may have heard from Cirque du Soleil-esque songstress P!nk, masturbating does not just need to be you and your hand–sex toys are always a great addition.


With plenty of time left in National Masturbation Month, Popstar is here to give you the tips (and so much more than just the tip) on nightstand non-negotiables for masturbation!

5 Must Have Sex Toys:

1. Sleeves and Strokers

Sleeves and strokers may be the answer to spicing up your solo sessions. This type of toy surrounds the penis to imitate penetrative sex. Perhaps the most commonly and colloquially known sleeve is the Fleshlight. This toy can resemble an anus, mouth, or vagina, depending on your preference!


Unlike the body, these toys don’t produce their own natural lubricant, so a generous amount of lube is recommended when using this type of toy. Pro-tip: make sure you are using a lubricant that is compatible with your toy. Believe it or not, a silicone based lube is not conducive to a silicone based toy. Go figure! A water based lube would be more appropriate. To learn more about the types of lubricants on the market, click here.

2. Cock Rings

Say “I do” to your shaft! If you’re looking to accessorize your favorite appendage, cock rings are an incredibly affordable addition to your goodie drawer. Quite possibly the least expensive piece of “jewelry” you will ever purchase. Cock rings, though self-explanatory, are rings worn around the shaft, and occasionally, the balls. Cockrings can vary in material, shape, and some even vibrate for added pleasure (more on vibrators later)! They can provide a prolonged, enhanced erection, increase sensation, as well as delay orgasm if you are looking for an extended spank session.

3. Prostate Massager or Stimulator

If you have been following along with our blogs, then you are already quite the prostate professional. For those of us just joining, welcome! The prostate is a gland that aids in the production of seminal fluid that carries our sperm. But it also doubles as the male G-Spot, or in this case, P-spot. Prostate stimulation coupled with masturbation, has been known to yield orgasms of seismic proportions.


Some commonplace prostate stimulators include butt plugs, dildos, and anal beads. If you would like to marry two toys in holey mastur-mony, certain cock rings come with a vibrator feature to stimulate your prostate externally via your perineum. Needless to say, a prostate massager is a nightstand necessity. Hitting your P-spot will have your neighbors thinking you might have some company over. If you don’t already have a prostate massager or stimulator in your goodie drawer, get on it!


To learn more about your prostate and why it is important to pleasure, click here.

4. Vibrators

Let’s see what all the buzz is about. Vibrators are another somewhat self-explanatory toy in the goodie drawer. While I think most would associate vibrators with vaginas, they shouldn’t be counted out by penis having counterparts. Like most sex toys, dildos can come in a variety of shapes and sizes. They also come with different intensity and speed settings. These can range from a slow, steady, gentle tickle all the way to pound town. Many use vibrators to stimulate themselves both internally and externally around the genitals and anus for enhanced arousal.

5. Penis Pumps

Alexa! Play “Pump Up The Jam” by Technotronic! Much like cock rings, penis pumps trap blood in the penile tissue, resulting in stronger erection. For increased results, rings and pumps are often used in tandem. But wait, there’s more! Penis pumps will leave you looking and feeling slightly bigger for a period of time, inflating both your junk and your ego.


Much like a vacuum, penis pumps suck up the air from a cylinder, bringing blood to the penis. A stronger erection results in increased sensitivity and some even find pleasure in the suction process itself. Should you decide a pump is on your wanking wishlist, make sure to order one with a vacuum limiter. A vacuum limiter stops pressure from getting too high which can result in injury. There is no bigger boner killer than a penis pump induced trip to the ER.

With the sex toy industry booming like never before, the choices may seem overwhelming and endless. The provided list above is a great way to dip your toe in the world of the goodie drawer. If you are feeling a little sex toy shy, all of the aforementioned toys can be purchased online for privacy sake. Remember sex is not a one size fits all situation and the same applies for sex toys. What may have one person curling their toes may leave another feeling frustrated. After all, everyone is different. Feel free to experiment until you find the nightstand non-negotiables that work for you to build the custom goodie drawer of your dreams! Have a happy (and fappy) rest of your Masturbation Month!

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez is a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine and specializes in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. He completed his medical education at Columbia University and his urological residency at the Mount Sinai Medical Center. Throughout his career, Dr. Gonzalez has focused on advocating for sexual health and providing improved healthcare to the LGBTQ+ community.