Anorgasmia: The Failed Finish

Let’s talk about anorgasmia, shall we? And no, it’s not a Greek goddess or a new moon in retrograde. Although it sounds like a mysterious villain from a Marvel movie, anorgasmia is a real, very unsexy condition that involves the inability to orgasm, even with plenty of stimulation, excitement, and effort. In short: you’re turned on, but nothing’s turning out. Not ideal.

Anorgasmia can happen to anyone. It affects your sexual satisfaction, mental health, relationships, and for some, even your ability to have kids. Because let’s face it, you can’t make a deposit if the bank's closed.

There are two main types of anorgasmia, and no, neither are more fun than the other:

• Primary anorgasmia is when someone has never experienced an orgasm. Not once. Not ever.

• Secondary anorgasmia is when someone who used to orgasm suddenly... doesn’t. Cue the Scooby-Doo mystery theme.

In both cases, the body might be doing everything else right: getting aroused, feeling pleasure, moving through the motions. But the finale? Missing. Ghosted. Blocked. Like waiting for the fireworks on the Fourth of July and getting silence.

Then there’s your body:

• Low testosterone and orgasm problems often go hand in hand. Testosterone plays a huge role in libido and orgasmic function.

• Nerve damage and sexual function are closely related. Conditions like diabetes, multiple sclerosis, or even pelvic surgeries can mess with the signals that lead to climax.

• Medications can be mood killers. Medications that cause anorgasmia include antidepressants, blood pressure meds, and some SSRIs.

If it feels like you need a PhD to have good sex, you’re not alone. Luckily, we’ve got some Popstar-certified solutions.

We’re not going to leave you hanging. Here are some tools that might help you reclaim your orgasmic glory.

If you’re struggling with low testosterone and orgasm problems, hormone replacement therapy for men may be an option. But don’t go injecting anything yourself. Talk to a professional to get your levels checked and your options outlined.

CBT isn’t just for anxiety. Cognitive behavioral therapy for sexual dysfunction can help you rewire negative thinking patterns and address emotional blocks. In plain English: therapy might help you get off.

Sex doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Couples counseling for sexual issues can help you and your partner reconnect, work through stressors, and communicate about what actually feels good.

This one doesn’t get talked about enough. Weak pelvic floor muscles can sabotage climax. Pelvic floor therapy for men (yes, men have one too) or even just basic Kegel exercises for men can make a huge difference. Stronger muscles = better control and sensation.

Time to get reacquainted with your own body. Self exploration and sexual pleasure can be incredibly effective, especially if you’ve never had an orgasm or you’re not sure what works anymore. Mindful solo sessions, sex toys, and patience go a long way.

• Try changing your routine. New positions, new settings, or even a break from sex to reset your system.

• Switch up medications if you suspect yours is the culprit. Don’t DIY this one, consult your doc.

• Add a Popstar product to the mix. Our Volume + Taste Supplement supports the whole pleasure system.

Already hitting the finish line but want fireworks instead of sparklers? Try these:

• Focus on breathing and edging techniques.

• Strengthen that pelvic floor (seriously, Kegels are underrated).

• Use arousal-boosting products or lubricants to enhance sensation.

Anorgasmia can feel like a lonely road, but you’re not alone and you’re not stuck. There are dozens of ways to work through the inability to orgasm, from therapy to hormones to good old-fashioned self-exploration. Whether it’s primary vs secondary anorgasmia, relationship tension, or something medical, there are paths forward. Don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor, your partner, or even yourself in the mirror.

And when you’re ready to get back to the fireworks? Popstar's here for it.