The Gay Man’s Guide to Butt Stuff (But Everyone’s Invited)

We’re not going to dance around it—anal play has long been the misunderstood, whispered-about, and wildly misrepresented member of the sexual health conversation. Whether you’re gay, straight, bi, curious, or proudly pan, this guide is your backstage pass to understanding butt stuff in all its glory.

No shame. No stigma. Just lube, logic, and a little humor to keep things flowing smoothly (pun extremely intended).

First up: education. Your backdoor isn’t just an exit ramp. It’s packed with nerve endings and potential for pleasure—especially when approached with respect, patience, and a solid sense of humor.

Here’s the breakdown:

• The anus : The gateway, lined with nerve endings. Super responsive, but also a little shy at first.

• The rectum : This is where things get roomier. But gentle exploration is still key.

• The prostate : For those with one, this walnut-sized pleasure button lives a few inches in. When stimulated correctly, it can trigger mind-blowing orgasms.

If you’ve ever thought “Is it supposed to feel this good?”—yes. Yes, it is.

Anal play is not a sprint. It’s not even a marathon. It’s more like a scenic hike—one where you stretch, hydrate, and maybe pack some snacks.

Start with external play. Rimming, gentle finger teasing, and the right mindset go a long way. Think of it like flirting with your own butt. You’re building trust before you go any deeper.

Use your hands. Use your mouth. Use your words. “How does that feel?” is still one of the sexiest sentences in any language.

Unless surprise butt stuff is your kink (consensually, of course), prepping for anal is both considerate and key to a good time.

Let’s talk cleaning:
A little hygiene goes a long way in making everyone feel comfortable. You don’t need a full internal power-wash. In fact, overdoing enemas can throw off your natural flora. A warm shower and gentle clean around the entrance usually does the trick. If you want to go deeper, a small bulb enema with warm water—no soap—is your friend. Or if you’re into a cleaner, science-backed routine, check out Future Method—they make products specifically designed for butt stuff prep that won’t mess with your microbiome.

Timing matters:
Give yourself time after eating. Trust us, burritos and butt stuff don’t mix well. A little planning can mean a lot more peace of mind.

The anus doesn't self-lubricate. That means lube isn't a nice-to-have, it’s a non-negotiable.

Water-based lube is great for beginners and safe with all toys and condoms.
Silicone-based lube lasts longer and is fantastic for shower play (but can degrade silicone toys).
Popstar Personal Lubricant is designed to go the distance without irritating sensitive skin. You’re welcome.

Popstar Pro Tip: Reapply liberally. No one ever said, “This is too slippery.”

The most common mistake? Rushing.

Start with a well-lubed finger or a small plug. Communicate throughout. Breathe. Tension is the enemy of pleasure. Relaxing the body (especially your pelvic floor) helps ease the way in and makes things feel way more enjoyable.

Still nervous? A couple sprays of Popstar Delay Spray around the entrance (and not on any internal areas) can help reduce sensitivity and give you more control without numbing you out of the moment.

Toys are an amazing way to explore at your own pace or level up partnered play.

Beginner tips:

• Choose toys with a flared base. You don’t want any disappearing acts.

• Start with a small plug or finger-like vibe.

• Clean thoroughly before and after use.

• Go at your own speed.

Prostate massagers are designed to stimulate the P-spot and can take orgasms from great to "why-didn’t-anyone-tell-me-this-sooner" territory.

Whether you identify as a total power bottom or you're simply prostate-curious, the butt stuff spectrum is broad and beautiful. No labels required unless you want them.

And no, being into anal doesn’t mean you’re “less” of anything. Power exists in pleasure. Anyone telling you otherwise probably isn’t getting any.

Let’s break down a few of the more persistent myths floating around:

• Myth: You’ll lose control of your bowels.
  Nope. Responsible, gradual anal play does not cause damage or incontinence.

• Myth: It’s always painful.
  Not when done right. Discomfort usually comes from going too fast, skipping lube, or not being relaxed.

• Myth: Anal sex is only for gay men.
  Yawn. People of all genders and orientations enjoy backdoor bliss. Sexual orientation is about attraction, not anatomy.

Want a cleaner, more comfortable experience? Add fiber. A high-fiber diet keeps things regular and reduces the need for major cleanouts before play. Think whole grains, leafy greens, apples with skin.

Hydration helps too. Water keeps your system running smoothly and makes for better... well, everything.

Feeling nervous? That’s normal. Anal play is as mental as it is physical. Shame, anxiety, and misinformation can all crowd the party if you let them.

• Set the vibe: Low lighting, music, whatever makes you feel relaxed.

• Communicate: Before, during, and after. Consent and check-ins aren’t just sexy, they’re essential.

• Laugh if something awkward happens. It’s sex, not a TED Talk.

For many people, prostate stimulation can trigger a dry orgasm, a blended orgasm, or a longer, more intense climax. It’s not always about ejaculation. It’s about expansion—physically and emotionally.

Want to boost flavor and volume?
Try Popstar Volume + Taste Supplement. Formulated to support load size and, yes, flavor. If you’re aiming to go from subtle stream to standing ovation, this one’s for you.

Whether you’re exploring butt stuff for the first time or you’ve had more plugs than a podcast launch party, the bottom line (pun intended) is this:

Anal play can be deeply pleasurable, incredibly intimate, and laugh-out-loud fun when approached with curiosity, preparation, and care. No shame. No pressure. Just exploration at your pace.

And remember, your pleasure is valid—no matter where it happens.