Let’s talk about a centuries-old sexual technique that flips the script on your standard bedroom playbook. Say hello to Kunyaza—the Rwandan-born practice that doesn’t just center female pleasure, it crowns it. With a combo of rhythmic tapping, shallow strokes, and some serious clitoral stimulation, Kunyaza might just be the most time-tested method for helping women cross that elusive finish line. Bonus points: it requires zero penetration (unless you both want to go there later).

Kunyaza (pronounced koo-NYAH-zah) is an ancient Rwandan sexual practice that emphasizes non-penetrative sex, patience, and rhythm. The technique uses gentle tapping, scooping motions, and shallow thrusts to stimulate the clitoris, inner labia, and vaginal opening. Think of it as an erotic massage for the entire vulva, with a strong focus on creating a safe, arousing, and deeply connected experience. The ultimate goal? Female ejaculation. Yes, really. That glorious, under-discussed release thanks to the activation of the Skene's glands.

The practice has been a staple of African sexuality for generations and has recently found its spotlight in global sex-positive education. From documentaries to social media challenges, Kunyaza is getting the modern revival it deserves. And we’re here for it.

Legend has it that a Rwandan queen, missing her husband, was comforted by a palace guard who stimulated her using rhythmic, shallow movements. What followed was an eruption of what Rwandans call amasoko y'ubusambanyi—"springs of love" or what the internet has lovingly dubbed the sacred art of female ejaculation. This guard didn’t just provide a royal service; he may have sparked a movement.

In Rwanda, women who master or experience Kunyaza are celebrated as abanyabugeni, or artists of lovemaking. And yes, this tale comes fully equipped with admiration, female empowerment, and a cultural celebration of orgasmic skill. If this sounds like a serious upgrade from the old in-and-out routine, that’s because it is.

Curious how the technique actually works? Here’s your beginner-friendly, pleasure-maximizing, step-by-step guide:

1. Set the Mood : Dim the lights, warm the lube, and put the focus on connection. Whether it’s romantic music or dirty talk, vibe matters.

2. Start With Touch : Begin with massages and verbal affection. Oxytocin levels rise with touch, which helps set the stage for relaxation and arousal.

3. Tapping (Gukama) : Using fingers, toys, or even the penis, lightly tap the outer labia and clitoral hood. This awakens the pudendal nerve and gets blood flowing. Clitoral stimulation is everything here.

4. Scooping (Guswera) : Begin shallow strokes near the vaginal entrance. Combine with tapping for a rhythm that stimulates both externally and internally. Still no deep penetration yet.

5. Build to Bliss : Only when your partner shows signs of intense arousal (moaning, pelvic tilting, labia engorgement), should deeper strokes be introduced—if desired. Remember: non-penetrative sex is the foundation, not a warm-up.

6. Celebrate the Splash : Female ejaculation may happen. That clear fluid released via the Skene’s glands isn’t pee—it’s a cocktail of PSA and fructose and a sign of full-body release.

7. Aftercare Is Foreplay for Next Time : Emotional check-ins, cuddling, and snacks are sacred. That connection is part of the experience.

You might be thinking, “This sounds spiritual, but is it science-backed?” Oh, absolutely. The internal clitoris (yup, it’s not just the button on top) is shaped like a wishbone that wraps around the vaginal canal. The shallow stimulation in Kunyaza activates the clitoral glans and bulbs, intensifying pleasure.

And when the Skene's glands get enough stimulation, they can release up to 50 mL of fluid. Female ejaculation isn’t mythical. It’s anatomy, baby. And tapping into it—pun intended—boosts oxytocin, reduces cortisol, and can create a euphoric physical and emotional release.

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Thanks to sex educators, Rwandan activists, and docs like Sacred Water, Kunyaza is popping up in workshops, podcasts, and yes, even TikTok challenges. The modern sex-positive education movement is spotlighting female pleasure techniques that have been sidelined for far too long.

This isn’t a "trendy new sex move." It’s an intentional return to prioritizing women’s pleasure and dismantling the orgasm gap that’s been normalized in Western sexuality. Kunyaza says, "What if we slowed down, connected, and prioritized the woman’s experience first?"

Often paired with Kunyaza is Gukuna, or labia stretching. While this practice is steeped in African sexuality and intimacy traditions, it can be controversial. Some hail it as a tool for increased sensation and closeness. Others critique it as unnecessary pressure. As always, the key is choice, not obligation. Your body, your business.

Yes, Kunyaza flips the traditional orgasm gap, but some argue it replaces one kind of performance anxiety with another. While women are celebrated for female ejaculation, not everyone can or wants to squirt.

The takeaway? Let go of pressure. The best sex isn’t about checking boxes, it’s about enjoying the process. The act of prioritizing female pleasure is the revolution. The fluid is optional.

• Consent First : Always. Every time.
• Hydrate : You’ll both need it.
• Lube Up : Natural or not, lubrication supports longer play. Try Popstar Personal Lubricants for a silky finish.
• Trim Those Nails : You’re not trying to exfoliate.
• Towel Territory : Prep the bed. Squirting can be... enthusiastic.
• Don’t Skip Aftercare : Talk about what felt good. Snuggle. Decompress.

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Whether or not you hit a geyser, Kunyaza is a masterclass in slowing down and putting female pleasure first. Forget the goal-oriented hustle. This is about exploration, intimacy, and enjoying every delicious moment.

Curious couples, take note: there’s wisdom in the rhythm. And there’s magic in caring about your partner's pleasure.