a guide to lasting longer in bed

Mastering Intimacy: A Guide to Lasting Longer in Bed

Written by: Dr. Brian Steixner

Lasting Longer in Bed

Intimacy is essential to any romantic relationship, and sexual satisfaction plays a pivotal role in maintaining a strong connection between partners. However, for many individuals, concerns about lasting longer in bed can create anxiety and impact overall sexual satisfaction. The good news is that this is a common concern, and various strategies and techniques can help address it. These practical tips and insights can enhance your stamina and foster a more fulfilling sexual experience for you and your partner.

Communication is Key

Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of a healthy sexual relationship. Addressing concerns and desires openly with your partner can help alleviate anxiety and create a safe space for exploring solutions together. Remember, you're on this journey as a team, and finding ways to work together can lead to more satisfying outcomes.

Explore Sensate Focus

Sensate focus is a technique that involves taking the focus away from performance and onto physical sensations. This can be particularly helpful for individuals struggling with anxiety about staying longer in bed. You can create a more relaxed and enjoyable environment by engaging in sensory exploration and touch without the pressure of reaching a specific goal. 

Kegel Exercises

Kegel exercises aren't just for women; they can also benefit men by strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. These muscles play a crucial role in controlling ejaculation. Regular Kegel exercise practice can improve control over ejaculation and enhance overall sexual performance. 

Pause and Squeeze Method

This method works as follows, begin sexual activity, including stimulating the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate. Then you or your partner can squeeze the end of your penis where the head joins the shaft. Keep squeezing for several seconds until the urge to ejaculate passes. Repeat the squeeze process as needed. You will thank us later for this trick.``

Utilize Desensitizing Techniques

There are various products available, such as desensitizing sprays or condoms, that can help temporarily reduce sensitivity. While these products can be helpful, you must use them judiciously and communicate openly with your partner about their effects. No one wants a numb mouth.

Masturbation as a Training Tool

Masturbation can be a valuable practice for improving sexual stamina. When masturbating, pay attention to your arousal levels and practice techniques that help you delay ejaculation. This self-awareness can be transferred to partnered sexual activities. Practice makes perfect.

Seek Professional Guidance

If concerns about lasting longer in bed persist, seeking guidance from a qualified sex therapist or counselor can be incredibly beneficial. These professionals are trained to address sexual problems and can provide personalized strategies to help you overcome challenges.

Remember that lasting longer in bed is a common concern, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution. It's essential to approach the topic with patience, empathy, and a willingness to experiment. By incorporating open communication, relaxation techniques, physical exercises, and experimentation, you can work toward a more satisfying sexual experience for you and your partner. The journey to improved sexual stamina is about fostering connection, pleasure, and intimacy, ultimately leading to a stronger and more fulfilling relationship. 

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner is a board-certified urologist and an expert in men’s sexual medicine. He completed his General Surgery and Urology training at The University of Pennsylvania and The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, one of the busiest and most comprehensive programs in the nation. During his career, Brian has treated thousands of men with sexual health issues including male factor infertility.