11 Ways to Get Better In Bed and Boost Your Performance

11 Ways to Get Better In Bed and Boost Your Performance

Written by: Joshua Gonzalez

Key Takeaways

Communication with your partner in bed is as important as any physical change you make.

The Mediterranean diet for erectile dysfunction is a win-win for overall health and performance.

Pelvic floor exercises for men and Kegel exercises for erectile function are game-changers.

Vitamin D and sexual health go hand-in-hand—get sunlight or supplement daily.

How to last longer in bed starts with better heart health, pelvic floor strength, stress management, and the right tools—like Popstar Delay Spray for extra stamina support.

When it comes to improving your sexual performance, there’s one universal truth: nobody, and I mean nobody, is turning down good advice in that department. Whether you’re the self-proclaimed Casanova of your friend group or just trying to level up your bedroom game, there’s always room for improvement.

We're here to give you the goods. This is real, science-backed, no-nonsense guidance. And yes, it works for gay men, straight men, and every flavor in between.

Here’s your ultimate playbook for how to last longer, get better in bed to improve your sexual performance, and keep your partner (and yourself) thoroughly satisfied.

1. Work Up a Sweat (and Not Just in the Sheets)

Cardio isn’t just for heart health—it’s for harder, longer-lasting erections. Strong circulation is the secret sauce to keeping things up and ready when you need them. Even just 30 minutes a day of moderate cardio can get the blood flowing in all the right places.

But here’s where it gets even better—pair that with pelvic floor exercises for men. You’ve heard of Kegels? They’re not just for women. Kegel exercises for erectile function help you control erections and ejaculation, which can mean better stamina and a more mind-blowing finale. If you want serious gains, consider pelvic floor physical therapy. It’s like personal training… for your crotch.

2. Eat Like Your Penis Is Watching

Spoiler: it is.

Your diet is a huge player in how you perform in bed. A Mediterranean diet for erectile dysfunction—full of fresh fruits, veggies, whole grains, olive oil, nuts, and legumes—can boost blood flow, reduce ED risk, and keep you in peak form.

On the flip side, loading up on processed junk and sugar can lead to systemic inflammation, weight gain, and poor performance. Think of it this way: what’s good for your heart is good for your penis. And if you’re wondering about foods that boost libido, reach for dark chocolate, oysters, chili peppers, and watermelon. Mother Nature’s been running her own aphrodisiac business for centuries.

3. Coffee: The Other Morning Pick-Me-Up

If you can’t function before your first cup of coffee, here’s good news—it’s also helping your erections. Studies have linked moderate caffeine intake (two to three cups daily) to better erectile function.

Coffee and erectile function are more connected than you think. Caffeine dilates blood vessels and improves circulation. Translation: that morning latte might be doing more for your sex life than you realized.

4. Reduce Stress for Better Sex

Nothing kills the mood faster than stress. Chronic anxiety cranks up cortisol, a hormone that tanks testosterone, slows blood flow, and wrecks libido. High stress makes it harder to get hard, harder to orgasm, and harder to stay in the moment.

So, how do you fix it? Exercise helps. So does meditation, deep breathing, listening to music, getting a massage, or even taking a tech break. Your mind and your penis will both thank you.

5. Sleep Like It’s Your Job

Sleep isn’t just “nice to have”—it’s a requirement for sexual health. Poor sleep lowers testosterone, which is directly linked to sexual performance. Studies also show connections between sleep disorders (like sleep apnea or insomnia) and erectile dysfunction.

Aim for seven to nine hours a night. You’ll wake up with more energy, a stronger libido, and maybe even some morning wood that feels like it could break glass.

6. Ditch the Bedroom Buzzkills

Excess alcohol, frequent marijuana use, and smoking are all bad news for erections. Sure, a drink or two can relax you, but overdo it and you’ll find yourself stuck in the refractory period for longer than you’d like.

And while marijuana has its fans, heavy use can delay ejaculation, lower testosterone, and mess with your sexual response.

If you’re still smoking cigarettes, quitting is one of the fastest ways to improve erectile function. Quit smoking erectile function boosts aren’t a myth—blood flow improves, stamina increases, and erections get stronger.

7. Get Your Daily Dose of Vitamin D

Sunlight is the OG source of vitamin D, and low levels are linked to lower testosterone. A quick 20-30 minutes outside daily can lift your mood and your libido. If that’s not an option, a vitamin D supplement can help keep your sexual health in peak shape.

Vitamin D and sexual health are like PB&J—better together.

8. Masturbation: Your Secret Training Session

Yep, you read that right. Masturbation to improve stamina is real. If you struggle with finishing too soon or taking forever to climax, solo sessions are a safe way to practice control.

Experiment with techniques, try different paces, and figure out what works for you so you can communicate with your partner in bed more effectively. Think of it as rehearsal for the main event.

9. Turn Sex Into a Team Sport

You can’t “wing it” forever—communication with your partner in bed is the ultimate performance booster. Talk about what you like, ask what they like, and don’t be afraid to explore new positions, toys, or fantasies together.

Being open builds trust, and trust builds better orgasms.

10. Take Your Teeth Seriously

Here’s a weird one: gum disease and erectile dysfunction are linked. Poor oral health can cause inflammation that affects blood vessels, including the ones in your penis.

So yeah, flossing might not be sexy, but better erections sure are.

11. Call in the Experts

Sometimes you need backup. If you’ve tried everything and still aren’t where you want to be, a sex therapist near me (or you) might be the best investment you make this year.

Whether your challenges are physical, hormonal, or psychological, there’s no shame in seeking help. It’s about working smarter, not harder.

Conclusion: Your Sex Life Is Worth the Effort

Improving sexual performance isn’t just about learning how to last longer in bed—it’s about taking care of your whole self. Your body, your mind, your relationships, and your habits all play a role. The payoff? More satisfying sex, higher confidence, and better health overall.

If you’re looking for an extra boost, try Popstar Volume + Taste Supplement to enhance semen volume and taste or Popstar Delay Spray for stamina support.

Your best performance is yet to come—literally.

Frequently Asked Questions: Ways to Get Better In Bed

Q: How quickly can I improve sexual performance?

A: Some improvements, like better stamina from pelvic floor exercises, can happen within weeks. Others, like diet and lifestyle changes, may take a few months to show full results.

Q: Does coffee really help erectile function?

A: Yes, studies link moderate caffeine intake to improved erections. Just avoid overdoing it—it can cause jitters.

Q: What are the best foods that boost libido?

A: Oysters, dark chocolate, nuts, and chili peppers all have compounds that increase blood flow and libido.

Q: Can gum disease really cause erectile dysfunction?

A: Yes, inflammation from periodontal disease can impact blood vessels, including those that supply the penis.

Q: Should I see a sex therapist or a medical doctor first?

A: If you suspect a physical cause like ED or hormonal imbalance, start with a medical doctor. If anxiety or relationship issues are in play, a sex therapist can be invaluable.

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez

Dr. Joshua Gonzalez is a board-certified urologist who is fellowship-trained in Sexual Medicine and specializes in the management of male and female sexual dysfunctions. He completed his medical education at Columbia University and his urological residency at the Mount Sinai Medical Center. Throughout his career, Dr. Gonzalez has focused on advocating for sexual health and providing improved healthcare to the LGBTQ+ community.

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner

Dr. Brian Steixner is a board-certified urologist and an expert in men’s sexual medicine. He completed his General Surgery and Urology training at The University of Pennsylvania and The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, one of the busiest and most comprehensive programs in the nation. During his career, Brian has treated thousands of men with sexual health issues including male factor infertility.

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